how do you know if you've found 'the one'?

Quite a few persons seem to think my boyfriend and I are just the bees-knees (which of course we are lol). Of course with that belief, every now and again I get a question which usually comes in one of two situations:
1. Single girl who is looking for that companion they can grow with and feels that her 'prince charming' isn't coming around...ever
2. Guy (sometimes single...other times in a relationship) who either honestly trust my advice or have some interest in me (more often than not, it's the latter...which while it is flattering, it's also a bit annoying).

What's the question you ask:  

How do you know he's the one?

The last time I was asked this question was by a number of high school students who after seeing my laptop wallpaper (I forgot to make it generic before going into that session) got into a series of questions about my life. I'm a proud and happy wifey, and since my session was to be a relaxed heart to heart with them, I didn't see anything wrong with me sharing even a little bit of relationship advice.
 
On a serious note though; I'm honestly usually a bit taken aback by the question because I really have no amazing fairytale answer to give (which can be quite a bummer for someone who's hoping for it)....but there is that princess part of me that kinda wishes I could formulate a fabulous fairytale answer even just for my own sake.

In answering I tend to look back at where my hunny and I are coming from, how our relationship started out and the journey we've had together so far. I usually smile (at least in my head) when I talk about this stuff, because there is comfort in knowing that we have grown...individually and together, and that there is a love and friendship that we share. 

Then usually after getting out all the cute stuff, there's the follow-up questions:  

1. But don't you ever wish you were still single?

2. Aren't there stuff that he does that bugs you? 

And my responses: 'no not really' to the first question...and 'yea' to the second. 

Unlike some people, I don't find my relationship to be a 'tie down' and that's probably because my boyfriend and I were friends before it got serious. And yes there are some things that he does that kinda annoy me...but I'm pretty darn sure there are stuff I do that annoy him. 

After that experience though I really started looking into this whole idea of 'is he the one.' Not because I don't imagine that there is a future for us together (preferably with the nice wedding, good kids, picket fence etc etc), but more so that I'll be better able to answer the question when asked again (particularly by teens who really are hopeful for a fairytale scenario). 

Then I found this video:

I think honestly that it's a good way to look at the situation (regardless of your religious standpoint). Instead of trying to find the perfectly amazing spouse...be the perfect spouse. And how do you do that? Be the best you that you can be. 

As he mentions in the video, you may be searching far and wide for that perfect person that fits your fairytale standard; but then you walk pass/overlook the real perfect person who you see ever so often. This person may not be a knight on a white horse/the perfect homemaker, but he/she may have all the qualities you need to sync with your qualities, so that together you can help each other realise your full potential both together and individually.

So instead of wondering whether or not you have found 'the one', ask yourself if you've found someone who will help you realise your full potential; just as you will help them realise theirs. 

You'll be surprised to know what you'll find hidden in a relationship you have with a friend/acquaintance. =]

2months, 2weeks and 4days later

It has been ages since I've posted....2months, 2weeks and 4days to be exact.

I'll admit that over the last few months it's been pretty crazy with me trying to balance jobs and projects and a short course I was taking. But now we're back to 'normal' and I promise to post more often!

Hopefully 'more often' will mean once a week but hey let's not push it.

I do have some stuff to post though. There's some beauty DIY stuff, updates on my charity projects, some random commentary on random stuff (as usual) and I even have some personal/motivational stuff to share with everybody (they'll probably get mixed into my random commentary).

So definitely keep on the look out for more from the blog in the next few weeks/months. =]

Z: zip it!

AlphabetChallenge

Here we have it; the end of the challenge road....well the end of the road of this challenge. (it's about time)


For the last letter I decided I'd go into a topic/area I think is worth discussing (pretty much like the rest of this blog but you know what I mean)....the art of shutting up when it's the better solution.

It may sound mean, but it does make sense....

In times when your emotions are not high, and your mood is possibly a bit crazy (particularly sad, frustrated and so on):

don't make a decision

don't make a promise

don't rule an option out

...and most importantly....

don't say too much!

The fact is, you say things you don't mean, or things that aren't necessarily best, when you aren't at the best place in your mind.

Give yourself time to think and rethink when you're back at a state of 'normal' or when a particular situation is no longer immediately in front of you.

Based on my experiences..this could work wonders in making life a little better.

Y: Y me?!

AlphabetChallenge

It really has been a while....and today as I try to keep sane with some of the things happening around me....I feel that blogging is my best bet for sanity.

So yes....it has been a long summer and a long time since I posted about what has been happening in my mind (and real life). Lately I haven't been the most lucky person...at least not with some things.

While I continue to be blessed with life and many amazing opportunities...my phone was stolen (right out of my car) and just weeks later an accident at work has left my laptop screen with weird colourful lines, cracks and black blotches. *sigh* In addition to that my room has an annoyingly random leak in one corner and my car needs a number of stuff to be fixed on it (need a new car really, but I'm working with what I've got).

Also happening this summer, I handed over my crown and I've hosted a few events for my charity as well (some crazier than others and all that jazz...something anyone who has done events can relate to).

 Ah...an eventful summer yes?

Fortunately for me...the roof no longer leaks, my laptop is back to business and I still have life and amazing blessings daily.


I'm still the determined woman I told you about, so I'm staying positive about everything as much as I can...including a new phone, my charity projects and grad school!

gasp!

Wow, I have posted nothing since June and I'm sorry loves.

I am alive and well, and I do promise to get the rest of those AlphabetChallenge posts to you (still have Y and Z left).

I also have some other posts for you to check out and will be working on some new fundraising projects that I hope all my readers around the world will get involved in. =]

Until then, toodles

*muah*